How to Combat Gaslighting
- Liza G
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Gaslighting is the practice of psychologically manipulating someone into questioning their own sanity, memory, or powers of reasoning.

Gaslighting twists reality until you start doubting your own memory, emotions, and instincts. Trust your feelings, set boundaries, and reach out for support — you deserve to feel grounded in your own truth. Read this article to learn more about combating gaslighting, and save this post so you can share this information with a friend who may be experiencing emotional abuse.

What To Say To A Gaslighter
If someone invalidates your reality or tells you you are being sensitive/paranoid/delusional, you can say:
"My feelings and reality are valid. I don't appreciate you telling me that my reaction is wrong."
“Don’t tell me how to feel. This is how I feel.”
"I am allowed to explore these topics and conversations with you. Do not tell me I am being dramatic."
"I know what I saw."
"I will not continue this conversation if you continue to minimize what I am feeling."

Six Tips For Combatting Gaslighting
Keep Calm. Suggest taking a break and revisiting the topic later so you can refocus and ground yourself in reality.
Document Everything. Save screenshots of texts and emails, note dates and times of conversations with direct quotes. Use your phone to record conversations to listen back to.
Utilize Your Support System. Seek input from people in your life who can reinforce your knowledge that you aren’t crazy, confused, or losing your memory. You aren’t asking them to take sides; you want them to observe what’s happening
Focus on Self-Care. While this won’t address the gaslighting directly, good self-care can improve your state of mind and better prepare you to face challenges and stand up for yourself.
Find Professional Support. Talking to a therapist or counselor is a good first step in helping you handle your situation, safety plan, and find resources and services.
Consider Leaving Your Relationship. All relationships take work, but gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse. Abuse doesn’t get better, especially if left unaddressed.
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